I’m hurt and in pain! Can I listen?

It is difficult to hear others when we are so consumed by our own pain. It takes a lot of courage and strength to say “Yes I have been hurt, angry, in pain and I want to understand how things went wrong.” Forgiveness requires compassion. It takes compassion for yourself to hear what the other person has to say. It takes compassion for the other person to listen without judging or being defensive.

Forgiveness is the gift you give to yourself. Give yourself the space to heal.  See if you can listen to the other person and try to understand how things went wrong from the other person’s perspective. Listening does not mean you agree or condone the behaviour. Forgiveness allows you to heal from your pain and the hurt you’re experiencing.